Wow, what a difference living the single life vs. being a mother.
Just a year ago, I was living the single life. I didn’t have responsibilities. My free time was my time. I spent my days working and watching Netflix.
I have went from the single life to motherhood. I feel like I wait on my baby hand and foot. Every cry I come running over frantically trying to figure out what is wrong. Even when she is sleeping, I can’t help but to stress that she will wake up any minute. With all that stress on my mind, I can’t get anything done.
It’s been hard transitioning from single life to motherhood. While it is rewarding having a baby girl and being her everything, it can also drive anyone crazy.
Here are some hard truths about my new life that I just have to swallow.
#1: It’s not about what I want anymore, it’s about what my baby wants.
#2: You can’t fail at life now, she is relying on you.
#3: You can’t waste time, you need to be productive.
#4: When she is hungry, or needs a change, or anything, stop what you are doing.
#5: She will be shared with another person, for life. So get along with him.
#6: No more sweets if you want your body back.
#7: Is she fed? Is her diaper dirty? Is she asleep? Good. No. Does she have fresh clothes? Laundry. Does she have clean bottles? Clean kitchen. Did she throw up on the floor? Clean room. When will he be home from work? Cook dinner. Can I get sleep tonight? No. Repeat.
#8: Save every penny, you will be unpaid for a few months.
#9: Does she seem fussier than last week? Get used to it.
#10: Grandma will stay asking for pictures, take a lot, every day.
#11: Got a clean shirt on? Not for long.
#12: Always carry a spare shirt, her mission is to throw up on you while you are in a public place.
#13: Yes, she will fart at random times. Especially when you try and show off how cute she is.
Along with all the new hard truths that I need to get used to, I have been thrown into this responsible role that is new to me. I am used to being independent and providing for myself. I did things when I wanted to, I didn’t mind eating pasta or fast food for dinner, I went out with friends, I drank on occasion.
Now I am without an income, relying on someone else to pay bills. I have a full dinner cooked every night when he gets home. I have no time for friends and have to pack two of everything in the diaper bag if I want to go anywhere. I haven’t drank since before pregnancy and have no plans to in the future. I have to make sure the house is clean because I live in it all day.
Being a mom is definitely a full time job.
While it is very demanding, it is also rewarding. It has me concerned about what I eat, what I get into, how financially stable I am, and how I’m raising my daughter. I have this little life that relies on me so much. She loves me and I love her.
That is the best; remembering that I will have someone to love me and care about for the rest of my life. Nothing can compare to that feeling.
So while motherhood is definitely different than the single life, it is good. Do I miss the single life? Do I regret going from the single life to motherhood? No, not at all. This is a new adventure for me and I will take everything that comes with it.
Do you have some hard truths that you need to get off your mind? Please feel free to comment them below.
Traveling for us is not always the greatest for us. I am a control freak that likes to be over prepared and everything planned. Hubby is exactly the opposite and just throws some shirts and pants in a bag and does whatever he wants and takes his time because he has no plans.
Yes, it drives me up the wall.
This past weekend was the first time traveling with my newborn little girl. We took a 3 hour trip to see my parents for Mother’s Day and stayed in a hotel for the weekend.
Of course, I made sure we did well preparing for the trip. Also I was grateful that a few things fell into place that made it easier for us.
The trip did have its challenges, but I learned some things that will help for next time we travel with our baby so here they are.
#1: Leave Early
The trip was supposed to be 3 hours of continuous driving. Originally I thought, she usually sleeps for about 3 hours at a time so maybe we can make it there without stopping. Apparently she had other plans.
The pediatrician had already told us that you should never feed your newborn while she is strapped into the car seat. So I made sure that I stopped every time she got fussy and wanted food.
Well, a 3 hour car trip turned into 5 hours as we stopped several times to feed her, then again to change her. I wish I had left earlier.
#2: Bring Everything
What was really helpful is that we were completely prepared because we brought everything. We had the pack n’ play for her to sleep in. We had several pairs of clothes and blankets, about 3 for each day, just in case she threw up on them every day. We had her boppy pillow just in case we wanted to put her in bed with us and not use some hotel pillow. We were prepared.
The only thing I forgot was a change of pajamas for me. Of course, she threw up on me and my only pair of pj’s the first night. I was too busy making sure we had everything for her that I forgot about myself.
#3: First Floor Hotel Room
Unknowing of the hotels in the area, I booked one of the cheaper hotels in the downtown area. To my surprise, it was actually a motel. It had rooms that were outdoor and only two floors.
While I personally prefer to be in a regular hotel, this actually proved to be very convenient. We parked right in front of the door and were able to move the pack n’ play, stroller, and the several bags we had in with no problem.
I imagined hauling everything we had into an elevator and down a hallway, one of us staying with the baby while the other one went down for more, then hauling it down when we left and honestly it just wouldn’t have worked out that well. I’m glad we had that motel. It was perfect.
#4: Jogger Stroller
I am so glad that I had gotten the Baby Trend Expedition Jogger Travel System, PhantomWe visited South Florida and for Mother’s Day weekend. Of course, when you are in south Florida, you have to see the beach.
We pushed the stroller through the powder white sand of Siesta Key with no problems. We wouldn’t have been able to do that with a regular stroller. The sand didn’t even get stuck in the wheels, it was super easy to rinse off. The Jogger Travel System stroller was worth every penny.
#5: Avent Bottle Sterilizer
The only down side of the motel was that there was no microwave in the room. I had brought the Philips AVENT Anti-Colic Bottle Essentials Newborn Starter Set, Clear so right before going to bed I would go down to the office and pop it in the microwave with all the bottles.
It fits 4-5 bottles and nipples easily which lasted through the night. This kept us from having to use tap water to rinse her bottles out. It proved to be very convenient and easy to travel with.
We were very blessed that we were able to travel with our newborn with no problems. We have an even longer trip coming up in a few months and I’ve already started preparing for it, physically and mentally.
Being a 3 month old baby at that time, I’m sure traveling with her will come with a whole range of additional needs and challenges. Especially this trip being a 6 hour car ride.
I guess we will see. I will keep you posted.