Transitioning from Single Life to Motherhood
Wow, what a difference living the single life vs. being a mother.
Just a year ago, I was living the single life. I didn’t have responsibilities. My free time was my time. I spent my days working and watching Netflix.
I have went from the single life to motherhood. I feel like I wait on my baby hand and foot. Every cry I come running over frantically trying to figure out what is wrong. Even when she is sleeping, I can’t help but to stress that she will wake up any minute. With all that stress on my mind, I can’t get anything done.
It’s been hard transitioning from single life to motherhood. While it is rewarding having a baby girl and being her everything, it can also drive anyone crazy.
Here are some hard truths about my new life that I just have to swallow.
#1: It’s not about what I want anymore, it’s about what my baby wants.
#2: You can’t fail at life now, she is relying on you.
#3: You can’t waste time, you need to be productive.
#4: When she is hungry, or needs a change, or anything, stop what you are doing.
#5: She will be shared with another person, for life. So get along with him.
#6: No more sweets if you want your body back.
#7: Is she fed? Is her diaper dirty? Is she asleep? Good. No. Does she have fresh clothes? Laundry. Does she have clean bottles? Clean kitchen. Did she throw up on the floor? Clean room. When will he be home from work? Cook dinner. Can I get sleep tonight? No. Repeat.
#8: Save every penny, you will be unpaid for a few months.
#9: Does she seem fussier than last week? Get used to it.
#10: Grandma will stay asking for pictures, take a lot, every day.
#11: Got a clean shirt on? Not for long.
#12: Always carry a spare shirt, her mission is to throw up on you while you are in a public place.
#13: Yes, she will fart at random times. Especially when you try and show off how cute she is.
Along with all the new hard truths that I need to get used to, I have been thrown into this responsible role that is new to me. I am used to being independent and providing for myself. I did things when I wanted to, I didn’t mind eating pasta or fast food for dinner, I went out with friends, I drank on occasion.
Now I am without an income, relying on someone else to pay bills. I have a full dinner cooked every night when he gets home. I have no time for friends and have to pack two of everything in the diaper bag if I want to go anywhere. I haven’t drank since before pregnancy and have no plans to in the future. I have to make sure the house is clean because I live in it all day.
Being a mom is definitely a full time job.
While it is very demanding, it is also rewarding. It has me concerned about what I eat, what I get into, how financially stable I am, and how I’m raising my daughter. I have this little life that relies on me so much. She loves me and I love her.
That is the best; remembering that I will have someone to love me and care about for the rest of my life. Nothing can compare to that feeling.
So while motherhood is definitely different than the single life, it is good. Do I miss the single life? Do I regret going from the single life to motherhood? No, not at all. This is a new adventure for me and I will take everything that comes with it.
Do you have some hard truths that you need to get off your mind? Please feel free to comment them below.